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	<title>NOT KEEPING SCORE &#187; Unthinkable Loss</title>
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	<description>Taking no prisoners. Including herself.</description>
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		<title>Happy birthday! You are dead, but I wrote you this letter</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Feb 2011 16:48:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Over in Oakland]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[(It is Valentine’s day. It is also my brother’s birthday, who passed away 3 years ago.) Dear C- I can hear the hiss of wet tire against wet road before I even get a chance to look out the window. It’s 6:01, and the morning is still black. (You were not a morning person. I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Faint &amp; Forgive (but not Forget)</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Oct 2009 20:02:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[What does loss teach us about love? Loss is a fluid that eases with time but never goes away, only shifts and eddys, pooling as memory. Its pokes and sharpnesses dull, but always is stored in a pocket of the heart, and balloons from time to time when triggered and bumped. This is because loss [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Bearing Witness</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Feb 2009 13:25:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adventures in Asia]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hello, Hanoi (Part 9 of Many) I have not posted for a few days because sometimes this world cuts me like a stone, and I have to wander around half-dead until breathable air arrives. How much pain must there be before it becomes unforgivable? What happens if we stop accepting and refuse to bear witness? [...]]]></description>
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		<title>2-14</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Feb 2009 23:35:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adventures in Asia]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[This Saturday is February 14th. For most people it is a day of romance (Hallmark or otherwise); but it is also my brother&#8217;s birthday. I&#8217;m taking the weekend alone in Sapa to write, think, and honor my only and lost brother. Just for him, I booked the deluxe suite with double-balcony views. &#8220;You only live [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Vacation Amnesia</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Dec 2008 00:36:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Location-Location]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Unthinkable Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[auckland]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[britney]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[You might think Britney Spears on the iPod while crossing New Zealand&#8217;s majestic bays via ferry towards Waiheke Island some kind of sacrilege &#8212; but let me assure you, my friends, it is a beautiful (life affirming) combination, the sacred and the profane. Auckland, the third time through now (you can&#8217;t fly anywhere in the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>In Loving Memory</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Nov 2008 16:43:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Unthinkable Loss]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Christopher David DeJong Feb. 14, 1976 &#8211; Nov. 20, 2007 It&#8217;s been a long year since you left us, yet the loss is still fresh. Slowly the pain lessens and is replaced with memory, but the &#8220;missing&#8221; will always be there. Let us miss you without selfishness, without desperation, but only with love. You will [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Celebration</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 31 Aug 2008 08:24:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Unthinkable Loss]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday was the 5 year anniversary of the death of my best friend Jamie. My friend Jill, who grew up with Jamie and I, called me: &#8220;Just wanted to talk to you to remember how, 5 years ago exactly, we experienced one of the worst days of our lives.&#8221; Actually, she said &#8220;one of the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Walking Backwards</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Jul 2008 04:34:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Unthinkable Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[brother]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[chris dejong]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loss]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Oh, who am I kidding- There is no Robot-Lego FlashDance going on &#8212; I don&#8217;t even own legos. I am working my ass off, writing whenever I get a spare moment, and trying to figure out, as we say in the business, Next Steps. The experts say I am in the &#8220;Reorganization Phase&#8221; &#8211; the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>&#8220;Dark Side of Mother&#8217;s Day&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://notkeepingscore.com/http:/notkeepingscore.com/dark-mother-day</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 May 2008 20:50:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Unthinkable Loss]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[As a follow-up to my last post about Mother&#8217;s Day, I am posting this link to an article, The Dark Side of Mother&#8217;s Day, written by a woman I know, Cynthia Tuttelman. I am not a mother, but I have one; and seeing what she&#8217;s had to go through after the death of her child, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Mother&#8217;s Day</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 May 2008 20:14:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Unthinkable Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[brother]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[chris dejong]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Mother&#8217;s Day was emotional but uplifting; energy around the household has been a little tense as Mom, Pop and I realize that grief comes in colors outside a hue of blue. There is also anger, fear, loneliness, and some other disorienting shade of grey that sort of lingers around your eyes when you first wake [...]]]></description>
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